Sounds great! Rob, chill. You can’t hurry Mother Nature, she is the Queen and all hails from her. Make some plans for something that requires alot of phone calling to cancel and maybe that will keep you occupied for the event.
M

@Mom – yeah that was basically the advice we got at the last midwife’s appt and it hasn’t helped. “make a lot of commitments that you can easily break.” which is easy enough at home and not so easy at work. it isn’t about trying to hurry anything, it’s about not knowing (and there being so much variation in the course that it can take that there is no reliable yardstick).

there’s just too many chaos variables to consider when dealing with babies and birth… I think that’s why guys get nervous/anxious and the gals going through it get a bit more chill? I’m pretty relaxed about the whole process, a sort of “it’s gonna be how it’s gonna be” kind of peace… but watching a coworker and friend wait on his wife to give birth was like watching a nervous ball of energy get bigger and bigger (a side note, his wife gave birth via c-section today).

Rob- would it help you to do some yoga/meditation? Or maybe to get some paper and write down every possible scenario so you get all of your worry out of your system? That helps my anxious mind.

I’m so excited that you two are so close! You’re in the home stretch! You get that baby out! 🙂

Dear Rob, tense is such a normal feeling for all this. Before you know it though, you’ll be holding something that can not be described. I will always remember that day when you were born. Not something you can ever forget. Time is on your side. When it is right, all will be well. And by the way, you can call my phone while I’m in Italy. I will still only be a phone call away for any news! Love, M

I think it’s really difficult for expectant fathers. Look at it this way—I have been out of work for a few weeks now, and I have the luxury of sleeping in, taking naps, eating, getting comfy, and generally decompressing. R is still at work, still has commitments, meetings, stress. Plus, the thing that you don’t realize until you hit the late 3rd trimester for the first time is that your SO will have to take over SO MANY of the ordinary day-to-day tasks. For example, I am usually the one to mow the lawn. Of course this responsibility has fallen to R. We usually share the maintenance and weeding of the garden. This too, is totally on R. I can do easy things like make dinner, but even some nights I feel lazy and don’t feel like being on my feet. So in a sense, it’s really easy for me (or any of us) to say, “Just relax….etc” R has essentially taken over the majority of the household tasks.

Rob–I think you are doing an awesome job and you know how much we all love you!!! I know you are just excited to meet the baby, and believe me, I share this excitement!! Smooches!

Kudos, Rob, for taking on so many chores and responsibilities! It’s great for you to do your part and then some! I know Tim and I split responsibilities and I’m a bit nervous about when I can’t hold up my end of the bargain anymore. I don’t want him to get stressed and overworked, though I’m sure it’s inevitable when you lover your preggo wife and want to take on as much as you can when she’s in the immobile months!